I know there is probably nothing I can do. Mom feels that our younger sister KNOWS her so well. Our younger sister also tells us VERY little in regard to Mom, sometimes nothing, other times only the minimum, so we're at her mercy. My elder sister and I are not on the lists, so neither doctors nor the facility will talk to us. I should ask Mom if she could put us on the 'list', but our youngers sister with full health care poa and full poa can change it anyway, ,so it's probably not worth it.