Mom becomes agitated whenever we talk about going on vacation.
We never leave her without care. We arrange for caregivers to drop in on her several times a day. She is particularly scared of being alone during the late evening hours.
She lives on her own (we live nearby) but never has any trouble sleeping or getting through the night....that is, until we plan a trip. She gets overly worried weeks before our trip. Her new thing is asking me to hire someone to "sleepover." I cannot see paying someone over $200. a night just to sleep.
I know that her fear is irrational, but it makes it miserable for me and I don't even want to leave because I know she will work herself into a panic attack.
Is this a symptom of sundowner's or just her way of guilting me into staying home?
She has also started talking about wanting to return to her home state where she will have absolutely no one to care for her.
I am at the end of my rope and ready to send her back.
Any suggestions about making her feel calm in the evenings, without hiring a babysitter? I really need a vacation....thanks