Mother is 83 years old with lots of major health problems and is irritable and rude most of the time...rarely a happy attitude. She can't see well now and I have to fill her insulin needles now. My husband and I have lived with her for 3 years this month and he has been battling prostate cancer the whole three years. And, every time his MD Anderson appointment comes up, we go through a war with my mother about who will stay with her. Now, our newly divorced daughter is living with us until she can get three or four pay checks in order to move into an apartment. She will be here with mother at night. I have several sitters who I have talked to who sat with friend's mothers and planned to call them to arrange daytime sitting. I've explained this to mother. But, she wants one of her elderly friends to stay with her and this friend has health problems herself. My husband told me that this time it is my decision and to go with my plan. Advice?