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After 8 yrs of my sister taking care of out mom, they decided(my 2 sisters in another state) it was time for assissted living. Understandable,, even with my brother living with them,,pills every 2 hours. in continent at night, changing diapers in the middle of the night. Now in a wheelchair, but during the day can sometimes manage to get on the tiolet by herself. Isnt there some type of 24 hour care, mainly all night care, wherethey can stay at home with family??????

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I concur with ismiami. Overnight, 24-hour care is expensive. But available. I use Home Instead Senior Care. Except for the roughly 29 hours a week that I take on, HI helpers are on hand all the time, including overnight. For my mom it is the much more preferable option. However, it does run about $12,000 a month - would be even higher if I wasn't pitching in - so it's not doable for everyone. But despite some glitches along the way, they have been great. She has gained weight, is in pretty decent health for almost 89 years old, gets the foods she wants, and is in her home environment - even though with her mild dementia I think she sometimes thinks she is in a care center! Good luck.
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My mother has Parkinsons, and now more dementia, she is 86 years old, she lived with me for 3 years and then she went to an assisted living facility close to my home, it was hard to take care of her, she fell in January broke her hip, had surgery and now she is in a Board and Care home for the elderly, they take excellent care of her, you might want to look into that, the cost is $3900 a month but well worth it! It's so hard to see our parents go through this, she has had parkinsons since 2011, I visit her several times a week, some days she is more alert and other times she is in a daze, I quess it is the dementia, does anyone here know of a medication for depression? I think I should talk to her dr. to see if she can get something so she doesn't feel so depressed.
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Yes, you can certainly get as much care as Mom can pay for. In general, even though they are extremely expensive, Assisted Living Facilities and Nursing Homes are less expensive/ more cost-effective than providing around-the-clock care at home. Medicaid will pay for in-home help to keep someone out of a nursing home, but only to the extent that the in-home care is less expensive, so it is never 24 hours a day. But if Mom can afford enough in-home help, then the Medicaid rules are not relevant.

Does Oldest Sister have POA? Would she be opposed to Mother living with you if you could hire enough help for the amount being paid now to the facility?
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Wow, we live in the D.C. Area, northern Virginia and we pay $8,500.00 a month at Sunrise Assisted Living. After working with Parkinson's Disease for 25+ years I just couldn't be my husbands caregiver any longer. My husband has had the disease since he was 38 yrs. old. Our son was 3 and our daughter 6.
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WOW here in ireland for 5000 a month you can get 24hr live in care here? surely you could get a carer just to do nights for less?
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There are agencies, you can google them. It is expensive, you need to pay by the hour, even for the hours mom is sleeping, because they are on duty. Typically about $17 per hour x 24 hour day x 30 days in month, that's $12k per month. You can scale back the hours, but that means someone else needs to be attentive at that time. If mom needs attention round the clock, AL may be the best choice, sounds like your sisters believe it is, since they were doing the day to day, I would support their decision.
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What kind of financial help can I receive for staying at home with myelderly aunt who is onmedicare?
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Wow, we pay 3200.00 here in Oregon for asst.living for my mother-in-law, and I thought that was a little high. I guess it's all 'relative'. I'd also suggest checking into an adult foster care situation. We had my father-in-law there for a few months before he died. They were wonderful people (Romanian) and it was cheaper. I will admit though, the asst. living place that she is in goes by points. M-I-L may not be using as many points as your mom. That would account for the price difference I guess.
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Ive never written on one of these, so not sure how it works. She been living in NC and Im in NE ga.3 hours away.Shes been there 5 mo.My oldest sister controls everyone and everything. Shes very wealthy, Im a widow with not much, but all my love, her grandson and great grandchildren she would love to see more,just being ignored. Trying to find out my way to do this on my own.
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Thats just it, my older sisters,who are always in charge,pay Brighton Gardens 5,000 a month, my moms money for assisted living.We all adore mom, but she and I had someting special.I want to change my garage and add her bathroom that she needs. But Im the 52 yr old baby that doesnt know anything. Even though I took care of my son with a brain tumor and my husband dying of lung cancer. Can you tell Im getting angry? :)
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Why don't you tell a little of your story for everyone on the site to see. You'll find the help you need here for sure though. Have you looked at some of the other threads.

How long has she been there and where are you in regards to her location, and your siblings how did they get her to a NH if they are out of state and you were there with her?
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I guess I just want to know where/if I can find all night care for her in my home. It seemed impossible in Charlotte to keep anyone.Shes in Brighton Gardens there and so unhappy, I want to get her out.
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Yeah my mom had that problem but I've never heard of partial. If she has partial have you checked with them to see if they will pay for an all night care giver?
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Partial, she may have to many assets
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Does your mom have Medical?
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