For more long-term support for myself as a care-giver, my husband and I decided to move closer to my family. He has none. We are currently over 3 hours from my nearest family member. I will be giving up living in an area I wanted to retire to (we've been here 6+ yrs) and moving to an area that's not nearly as appealing, but my dad (with mod dementia in assisted living) and my brother are within 15 mins while my only son will be less than an hour away Yeah! I am majorly torn over the long-term since when my husband does pass, I don't want to be so far from family. My soul is where we currently live and I've lived all over the U.S.
At this point I need all the support I can get due to my own mental inllness (bipolar I for 20+ yrs)
My husbands has never done well whenever we moved - getting lost, disoriented, etc. I'm afraisd tht his rare dellusions will becomemore frequent and my care-giving burden will increase significantly.