My mother had a stroke at 59. This took away her total independence. She could not drive anymore or work. She was starting a new job in 3 days prior to the stroke.That was 8 years ago. Long story short. My dad was taking care of her He died in 2007 from lung cancer. I was my mothers sole overseer of affairs until December 2010. She sustained a fractured hip in Oct was in and out of rehab. She through crying fits about going to rehab and said she just wanted to go home. She checked herself out of rehab in Dec 2010 and "fired" me as her POA and called my brother crying stating I was trying to put her in a nursing home. She made him POA. She would not speak to me after that. I have 2 young children and an adult daughter. This has been so stressful for me and now my brother who took over in Dec. She now seems "a little confused" Crying and screaming at her care givers and any one else around. My brother is thinking she needs to be placed in a nursing home and I agree. However, she crys and screams at the near mention of it. Neither of us can take it anymore and am at a loss of what to do now. She will not go willingly. She will not even go to the doctor for she thinks she is being tricked into a nursing home. I am so stressed with this. She is also a chronic chain smoker and I have asthma and migraines and cannot tolerate the smoke. Is there a good answer to this?