My mother is caring for my father with Alzheimer's and a colostomy at home. She refuses to move him into a nursing home and wants to take care of him herself. Where do I start to look to find help them?
My 87-year-old mother is caring for my 89-year-old father with middle stage Alzheimer's at home. He also has a colostomy that she tends to and cannot transfer from chair to bed, so she is using a Lift to move him. Because of his Alzheimers he has disrupted sleep patterns and will sometimes keep her awake for 48 hours straight. She refuses to move him into a Nursing Home and wants to continue taking care of him herself. Obviously she will succumb to his disease before he does from stress and lack of sleep. Is there any type of housing that they could continue to live together, but have assistance on hand if needed? For example, he scoots out of bed and she is not physically able to help him get back in. Because of his Alzheimers he will verbally rant for hours leaving her in tears. I am so concerned, yet live out of state and feel helpless. I need to know where to start looking to find help for my mother. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thank you.