How can I make my mother happy in her new retirement home?
My mother just moved into a retirement home 10 days ago. She used to live in an apartment for 27 years in a suburb an hour away from me. I am the only daughter nearby and wanted her closer to me and felt it was time for her to have more support. She is 95 and has done well up until now but I have seen signs of decline in recent months. She doesn't see it herself. She now is complaining daily that she is unhappy, feels disoriented, feels lost and wants to go back to her old neighborhood. I have noticed that she has become extremely confused - it is like real dementia. I don't know what to do. Should I try and move her into a retirement home in her old neighborhood so she feels amongst more familiar surroundings? I feel awful everyday and am really wondering if I did the right thing. What do I need to do to make her feel better? Will she actually ever feel better or will it be like this for a long time? I feel guilty that I might be making her final years so unhappy. Doria25