My mother is 85 years old. I'm an only child and I live 2,000 miles away. My mother is very bull headed. She is tighter than the bark on a tree. She is suffering from Macular Degeneration. She WILL NOT MOVE in with me, nor will she go into a home. She will not pay for anyone to come and take care of her in her home. She wants my husband and I to move to be closer to her. We have just retired to this area, haven't purchase a home as yet. We love it here, and we do no want to move. The guilt is overwhelming to me. We can only afford to visit her once a year. Do we move to be closer to her, an area we hate, and look at it as a temporary (till she passes) thing, or do we stay here, but then what do I do about my mother????