Do I need to disclose an annuity beneficiary payment that my mother is leaving me when she passes away?

To be sure, I'd see an estate attorney. I understand "throwing it all together," as that's instinctive when the elder has needed your care all of these years and you are the only one doing it. Yet, people can get nasty about money. Please see an attorney to know your rights and to protect yourself against later repercussions.
You don't want ugly stuff thrown at you after all that you've done.
Take care,
Carol

I would like to add, my mother has no property. She sold the house her and my dad had and bought us kids a new car. Married at a very late age...he was 86...he had a stroke and she asked me to quit my career to help her take care of him as he was an invalid after stroke. So none of the annunity came from anything from my father. Only my step father who none of them would have anything to do with, because he was so old.

Definitely see an elder care attorney. Review both the beneficiary and ownership issues. If she ends up on medicaid, they may be able to take the annuity as an asset she owns. There is a 5-year look-back rule in many states. It should be safe from that but get attorney advice on it. My mother assigned ownership of her annuity to me many years ago, just to be on the safe side.

I am not worried about medicared. She has nursing home insurance if I can no longer care for her. .

golfbhard - I have sibling issues as well. I am reposting from a post I made yesterday and hope it helps:

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I fear my brother, the one who wrote the weird email I posted yesterday, may decide to fly in for the burial (if he does) and clean out the joint account we hold with Mom. I don't say this lightly. His anger over not being named POA or in charge of Moms Will was what caused our estrangement in the first place. Also, I have learned from reliable sources that he has been under psychiatric care for erractic behavior (I will spare the details) for somke time, and was court-ordered into a psych ward for 10 days not too far back. (This truly breaks my heart but I can't deal with that just now).
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Also golfhard - is Mom still mentally competent? If so, she can change her will - you can even find a lawyer to come to the house and/or you can do a "caregiver agreement" that spells out her wishes.

Let us know what happens. Good luck. Many of us have similar issues and truly feel your pain.

Mariesmom~ So sorry to hear your situation. My my is an amazing 92 year old. She makes her own bed, but has some short term memory loss after a couple episodes last year. Blood transfustion and horrible flu. UTI's really get. her confused but after meds she comes right back.
I pray your brother doesn't do what you fear. If he is mentally disturbed, be careful.