I'm caring for my husband with dementia, and HIS children are bossing me around in our home. What are my rights?
I just wonder if any of you are taking care of a husband with dementia and do not have children together, but HIS children are bossing me around in OUR home....We have sitters, 24/7, I have been told I have no right to decide on who sits, I was told to move out of our master suite so my husband (bed ridden, no bowel, bladder control, delussional, vas dementia) could occupy it when there was a perfectly good room for him that would have been safter, less obtrusive...My husband had a psychotic episode one against our help, one against me before he was diagnosed.....after a stroke he asked to have an attorney (*I think he was cooerced) bring him POA papers having his cousin POA medical and financial...I could probably have them over turned....with proper attorney, I just don't know if I can handle any more stress...At any rate, the daughters, nurses, told the doctor when he was to be released, that they did not want him going to a "swing bed" and wanted him in OUR home..they persuaded the doctor by saying they would participate in his care at home.....As of Christmas 2 of the 3 daughters have spent no MORE than 4 hours in the home..they never ask to help get groceries, cook, nothing except tell me and the help what to do ...and what NOT to do....I have taken care of my husband for nearly 12 years...without help from them, but now, they want him in home, but no participation...I know this sounds sketchy and bizarre...I just wonder if any of you are fighting an uphill battle with step children! My name is on the deed btw....where are MY rights??? BTW, my husband weighs 380..I have also been helping the hired sitters with cleaning him after bowel movements until I hurt myself last week.....It takes 2 people to clean him properly....Ok...HELP