In 5 weeks our lives have changed radically. First my mom, 84, was hospitalized for 2 weeks because she'd stopped eating; she was diagnosed with failure to thrive. A week later my father, 86, who was vibrant and active, fell and was taken to the hospital where they found he had 20 percent heart function and a dangerously large abdominal aortic aneurysm. After emergency surgeries he was in the ICU for 3 weeks; he died last week after 2 days in hospice.
Now my mom is home and my sister and I are faced with taking care of her and settling my father's affairs. We're in shock and exhausted. My sister is talking about giving up her life in LA to live in NYC with my mom. I'm a freelancer and must go back to work, as I've been unable to work steadily for the past month. Where do we start?