Mom has been in ALF for the past 2 years and now she is wanting out. She wants to move about 4 hours away from me, a town where she use to live. She is pysically somewhat strong, a little weak on the legs but as I talk to her she tends to repeat the same stories and is very moody maybe some early signs of dementia? I never know what to expect when I go to visit. She has never lived by herself and would be very socially alone. She doesn't drive and would have to depend on strangers for everything even though she keeps repeating that "I can take care of myself". How do i handle this? What do I tell her? Everytime this subject comes up we get into a spat. I just listen to her and try to change the subject. Is this the right thing to do? I know if I were to let her go I bet on my life that a short time down the road she will be calling me to help her. If something happened and she would have to go the hospital it would take me 4 hrs. to get there. She is very stubborn and it is very hard to get through to her. Any suggestions?