Caregiver needs shoulder surgery. Where to put hubby?
Hello, everyone. Ok. So this time it's about me. My shoulders are so riddled with arthritis that I can't lift my arms above my shoulders. The pain can keep me up all night. I've been advised by my doctor that the specialist will most likely say I need surgery. However, I am a full-time caregiver for my husband, who is unable to walk and needs help with everything but eating. I have 2 children who are local, but they have their own busy lives and no time to take care of Dad 24/7. Nor would I ask either my son or my daughter to perform hygiene tasks for their father. We cannot afford a home health aid at $15.00 per hour.
Hubby was recently released after 4 months is rehab and receives therapy and visiting nurse services. But the majority of the time it's all me.
What are my options as far as respite care? What will Medicare and his supplemental cover? He has to be "out of the house" or I will wind up doing his bidding, post-surgery or not. (I know this by experience when I had hip replacement). When I come home, I will not be able to turn him nor pull him up as I am doing now. He weighs 350 lbs. and doing this one handed is impossible. It looks like there are no options for me and I'll just have to suffer with it.
Thanks in advance.