My Step Father in Law is who I am the caregiver for. We moved in with him 18 months ago. He's getting more and more obnoxious, to the point I can't even stand the sound of his voice, the sound of his walker, squeaking through the room, or his smelly backside as he walks by me to sit (all day long) in his smelly chair watching TV. (full blast I might add)
My husband is gone more and more from work and leaves the care of this guy up to me.
He is 87 years old and acts like the world owes him everything. He wants non-stop attention, thinks everything he says I should laugh at. Nothing he says is funny anymore. I've heard all the stories I care to hear and I just want to get out of here. I want my life back, I want my own home back, etc. I know I can't go backwards and change what my husband decided was best for his step father. It's not best for me!!! I feel like I'm losing it a lot of the time, like I'm going to just blow up at G-Pa one of these days and tell him how I feel. Yet the part of me that says "respect your elders" won't let me. It's affecting my health now.
When "G-Pa" leaves the bathroom I'm afraid to look in there. (yes there's only one bathroom in this 87yr old house) He leaves poo on the bathroom sink, toilet, and tile floor and the little throw rug in front of the sink. And he leaves water on the floor. He never has the common decency to turn around after doing his business and check to see if he left anything behind. AND, he never washes his hands!!
I could go on for hours about what I can't stand about this guy, but I don't want to bore you all to tears.
I am normally a loving, forgiving, patient, person. My relatives say they would have left the first time this stuff happened. But I've been married to the same guy for 43 years. His biggest fault is though he listens to what I say when I tell him about his step father HE DOESN'T HEAR ME!!! Or, he just doesn't give a darn. :-( What am I going to do?? I am SO angry lately, I could just SCREAM!!!
Help. Any suggestions anyone?