Should I always be truthful with an Alzheimer's patient even if they get angry or should I just get in their world and agree with what they think?
My dad has Alzheimers and we put him in a nursing home one week after my mom’s death. We felt like it was not safe for him to be alone and my sister and I both have full time jobs and were unable to care for him. I’ve been told you have to get in their world and agree with whatever they are thinking that day. Sometimes when I go visit him in the nursing home he is at the nurses station waiting on my mom to come pick him up, and he asks me the whole time I am there if I know where my mom is and why she is so late. He seems genuinely worried about her safety so obviously he doesn’t even realize my mom has passed away. Other times he is aware my mom has passed away and he begs me to take him home. He thinks he is in a hospital and he says he is wasting money being there because he isn’t sick and they aren’t treating him for anything and he has lots of things to do at home and he asks me to check him out and take him home. Usually, I just tell him that I don’t think he is quite ready to go home and then he says well when I get ready will you come get me and take me home. I’ve been told you have to get in their world and agree with whatever they are thinking that day, but I feel like I am lying to my dad and maybe causing more confusion for him by not telling him the truth each time I visit him. Sometimes I think it would be better to just tell him the truth each time I visit, that mom has passed away and my sister and I felt like it wouldn’t be safe for him to stay alone since his memory is bad and until his memory improves he will just have to stay in the nursing home. Although I have told him the truth a few times and he gets very angry and verbally abusive, cusing and telling me I don’t know what I’m talking about, so then I think maybe I should just tell him what he wants to hear. I’ve never been around someone who has Alzheimers and I am so confused if I should always be truthful even if they get angry or If I should be just get in their world and agree with what they think.