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Tired1of4

Oct 2, 2016

     ... last part was meant for Sue about her father.
    
 

Tired1of4

Oct 2, 2016

     ...as long as your ok with it, then leave. understand this, its your life, no one said you have to live your remaining life devoted to him. But for your own feelings down the road, try to set him up with care before you go, or let someone you trust know your not going to be doing it (because it is a burden, dont let anyone tell you its not) ...especially when it comes to a mentally ill person.
    
 

Tired1of4

Oct 2, 2016

     ..cont... Dementia, to me, what I'm witnessing, produces itself as erratic spasms of an individuals personality. If they had abilities to be mean, cruel, fearful, bitter, prejudice, jealous etc, in youth, then those will emerge as more raw unfiltered expressions if you will, against anyone/ anything they felt that particular way about in the past. Clearly a mental illness, but also parts, of them.
    
 

Tired1of4

Oct 2, 2016

     .. cont .. shes becoming mean to them although they help her, they serve her, they get and do all she asks when I'm unavailable. They had no relationship with her as a grandmother, I'll be damned to have her treat them cruelly, a woman they are helping, regardless dementia. I explain & excuse the disease, yet, I see their faces. Finding a place for her care, is the only thing left to do, for us.
    
 

Tired1of4

Oct 2, 2016

     .. caring for a parent is not a part of lifeI was told about (warned about.) I left the "family many years ago for the same treatment the "family offers once again. I hate them for what they've done. I say that freely without guilt or hesitation. She stopped being my mother long ago, and became only a person worthy of help, care, kindness. Shes become mean to my sons, although they help her with..
    
 

Tired1of4

Oct 2, 2016

     .. cont... Ive been told by several that they are insulting and defaming of me when they talk to others about me, the only one caring for her. They all live within 30 minutes. I've taken care of her for 4 years (even when she was in independent living) I'm tired. Im a single parent, it was already tight. Since caring for her, Ive lost my home, my business, my life. My sons miss me .. I miss me.
    
 

Tired1of4

Oct 2, 2016

     cont ..She was wrongfully evicted from an independent living facility over a year ago. There10 months, thousands of $'s of her belongings came missing. 2 police reports later, now a law suit. The 3 siblings are cold, removed, 100% ignoring all attempted contact. They, MIA in every way, including 0 visits to her, 0 holidays, 0 b-days, 0 mothers day etc. Yet insulting, defaming and inhumane...cont
    
 

Tired1of4

Oct 2, 2016

     .. My mom, 76. I am the only 24/7 caregiver of her 4 children. The other 3 went MIA as soon as I asked for both care and money help. She is becoming cruel & mean as her beginning stages of dementia are worsening. I'm deteriorating. Shes on a limited income, all other money comes from me. She's destroyed my finances, and my life. I remain patient & kind, but its killing, me, I see it in the mirror.
    
 

wantoutsue

Jul 20, 2016

     i have been with my father for almost 8 years, I really do not know why. I never liked him and was afraid of him for up to 40 years. now he is treating me badly when I try to help. is there a rule you have to care for aging parents??? I want to leave.
    
 

NYDaughterInLaw

Dec 3, 2015

     MIL is 80, no cognitive impairment but has a rare neurological disorder called Multiple System Atrophy, urinary and fecal incontinence, and is in a wheelchair. FIL is 81, depressed, anxious, losing his balance, in denial, moderate++ cognitive impairment is evident to me and my husband. They now live in an independent living apartment nearby. Thank goodness hubby has broad POA. I work part time.
    






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