I am 25 years old and my girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. Her mom was diagnosed about 1 year ago with dementia. Her mother (I'll call her Susan here) had been progressing with this dementia for about 3 or 4 years before being properly diagnosed. The only family member that was close enough that even cared about Susan's wellbeing was my girlfriend. We have been through hell (quite literally) with her mom. Between finding a decent facility, trying to right the wrongs done before Susan had care, and keeping Susan out of ADS's hands it was all just a nightmare. Things have finally started to calm down, but now it seems the dementia is getting worse more rapidly. My girlfriend quit her job for almost a year to help straighten things out with her mom, leaving me as the sole provider.
I guess my questions comes down to this: What do I do? I love my girlfriend and would like to marry her someday, but with her mom's dementia getting worse and the prospect that she might one day live with us (again) I can't handle it. My girlfriend and I should be doing what young adults do: travel, spontaneity, etc. What do I do? Am I just not cut out for this?