"When you place your loved one in a facility you can go back to being their son/daughter/spouse again." Is that a polite lie?
If one more person pulls out that tired admonition, I may haul off and smack them. Well, maybe not but I'll want to. It may be true for those who need physical care or are in the early stages of dementia, but I have no doubt that my mom's tenuous grasp of my identity will disappear as my presence is reduced to one of many.