Trying to work part time, but running into mom's fear-based insanity.
I have been taking care of mom for @ 4 yrs now. This yr I decided that I want to do dog walking and pet sitting (very part time) -- like 2X a day during the week for about an hour TOPS. All the jobs are right around here so I am not far or gone long at all I decided to do this instead of being broke all my life not that it was a dream fantasy of mine but to earn a little cash while still being here for mom Well, according to mom I've abandoned her. Now when I go to the store for an hour or take a walk for an hour -- I'm not accused of abandoning her - but now she's acting like I'm leaving her all alone when I'm a mile down the road and coming back immediately. Yesterday, I was gone for an hour and the cable went out and mom thought the lights went out.), Is this separation anxiety?Or is it fear based selfishness? Mom told me "I didnt' know this would be full time". Yep, 5 hrs a week tops -- according to her is 'full time'. I know mom's not well and the PD is starting to affect her cognitive reasoning but the self centeredness of this is beyond the pale as far as I'm concerned. Any pointers out there from my fellow caregivers who have been or are in similiar situations?