New to AgingCare. Wish I would have discovered this earlier.
I moved in with my mother in October 2002. My father was in a nursing home with dementia and then he passed away in December. My mother is almost 86. Up until very recently my mother was very independent and active. She went to the hairdresser's once a week, went to the gym three times a week, had a luncheon once a month with her former co-workers, went to lunch and shopping with other friends, drove herself everywhere, etc.
She developed pneumonia and was in the hospital from December 16 through the 30th. Now she's relying on me to help her dress. This has been an extremely stressful time on all of us, especially since my brother and sister-in-law have been here as well. They treat me and my husband like children, boss us around, act as if this is their house, etc. They live in FL and we're in SC and they are going to come up here regularly (probably every weekend, knowing them), because they don't trust us to be able to take care of my mother.
I found this board just recently. I wish I'd discovered it while my mother was in the hospital, because then I could have had someone to vent to.