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Wonderful that it is working out for you! You ARE one of the lucky few. I hope it stays as good as you described.

But, shame on us who complain? Not sure you should be lecturing anyone on here. So best wishes to you and don't be judging the rest of us if you don't want it done to you.
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Lol! Why so many negative posts and replies? Lol - still!

Well, I guess it stands to reason - that so many of us have had a negative experience.

You keep on posting - maybe we can learn something from your positive experience. OR - maybe you'll come to see what we've all been talking about. Seriously- I'd be very interested in hearing how things are working out for you - say, six months from now.
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Ah, the honeymoon stage! So many answered negatively because so many have been there, crashed and burned. Most of us wouldn't have understood the nay sayers either when we began, or we would have thought maybe them, but certainly not us. I hope she continues to be a blessing to you and that you never, ever experience the flip side of the caregiving coin.
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Steph, before you judge all of us too harshly, consider this:

Not all of us have had great relationships with the person or persons we came to provide care for in their later years. Not everyone had Ward and June Cleaver as parents, or the Brady Bunch parents, if that gives you a better frame of reference. Many - and I mean, MANY - of us had abusive parents who were alcoholics, physically / mentally / emotionally /sexually abusive to us, or abandoned us only to come back later, requiring care when everyone else had abandoned *them*. Many of us only provided care for our parents or loved ones out of a sense of filial duty.

So please don't be so dismissive or high-minded about this. You will need this site and the advice offered here in the months and years to come. Trust me.  Don't bite the hand that feeds you, because you're going to need it later.

Those who advised you not to become a caregiver were only trying to keep you from experiencing what many of us already have been through. It wasn't done out of spite or mean-spiritedness, and it certainly wasn't intended to evoke this kind of reaction from you.

I'm sure most of us are happy for you that you have an "easy" caregiving job....so far. Right now, things are simple for you and your grandmother. That's great, and we're happy for you that it's that way. But please don't belittle or attempt to shame those who have had a much harder row to hoe with their loved ones.
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