Why can't aging parents just be GRACIOUS about all the help they are getting?
We have been looking after my mother in law for over 10 years now. She's almost 98 and still going pretty strong. She has full time in home care givers for the last year and is sometimes very mean to them. This causes us a lot of stress when they call us to say "I"m outta here" because she was so nasty. She has never helped us in any way throughout our marriage, but expects a lot from us now just the same. Whatever we do is not enough. I'm sick of it and her.
Am I the only one who feels this way?
My husband and I don't have kids and will have to manage our affairs ourselves. I'm sure this is part of my resentment. I think she's very lucky to have our assistance, but she shows no appreciation for it. She just resents her lack of independence.
We will be moving her into an assisted living situation this year. She does not want to go and is very upset about it. We must move her before she runs out of money so she can transition there onto Medicaid. They won't take her if she doesn't have money to pay for at least a year.
I can't WAIT to get her moved so we can stop having the daily worries we have now. I wish I felt differently....but these are my honest feelings. :(