Who'd have thought?
For a quick refresher--Mother is 85, had hip surgery last April (?) did 8 weeks in a rehab facility then came "home" to her apt at my brother's house. She refused initially to use her walker and was falling a lot. Like, everyday. We're not terribly cohesive as a family, 3 of 5 living sibs are all within 15 miles of her, but she "uses" my brother and me. We got her a "fall pendant"--which was going off all the time. Every time she "fell" every one of us kids got a phone call, although by the time they'd call us,(middle of the night) my brother had dealt with her. It was terrible. Finally I asked him to take my name off the call list completely. He called the co and set it up so they call him and his family (his 5 kids all still live at home) and then it calls 911. As soon as he set the calls up that way, mother's falls stopped. Period. She has not fallen once since then. Ah HA! Just as I thought! Every time she'd "fall" and we all got called, I would go see her, my sisters and brother would call her and she was belle of the ball. Now we're wondering if in fact she EVER truly fell, except for the time she was trying to get by with a cane and fell horribly. Too big a coincidence for me to think it's anything other than mother being manipulative, as always. 'sigh' what we went through to figure that out.