Who can help?
I can't cope with my mother any more she has lewybodies dementia she was diagnosed in 2010 I moved to the house next door to care for her after diabolical care service. I always said I wouldn't let her go into a home but now I am caring for her 24/7 I can only be paid 28hrs a week which means I am under the 30hr thresh hold to get working tax credits (I am a single parent my 16 yr old still at school studying for ALevels. I have had to give up work completely. I get just a little too much to get carers allowance. Mum recently started going to a day centre twice a week for 5 hrs. Great initially but now I just try to get all chores for her and me done in that time I have to myself, she has become so child like. I have a telecare system set up during the night to let me know when she opens front/back doors. This means I get calls throughout the night which works well because I know she is safe. When I try to get her to go back to bed she is very argumentative and aggressive a couple of days ago around 5.30am she threw a full glass of water in my face. Today I told her she had to go and clean her teeth she didn't want to then made out she had tripped and lied stiff as a board on the floor. I got her up and she said she wished she was dead (she says this often these days when she is being nasty and stubborn). My mother was always the most gentle loving person s played back and good natured. I am exhausted every bone in my body aches I have pains in my arms and hands my feet are extremely painful when I first get up in the morning I have a thyroid problem and also suffer with IBS I get a deep pain in my back since I was in a bad car accident in March this year and bad headaches I have been to see my doctor for myself they just say it's stress and I should try to loose some weight even gave me gym details. I don't have time or energy to do any thing anymore I know this all sounds a bit self-centred but I just can't cope I used to have a thriving business I went to the gym regularly I was always fit and healthy but now every waking day is a struggle just to take care of my mum who has turned into a 4yr old