Planning for when our children will have to be our caregivers.
Many of us are caregives for our parents and in-laws. Do many of you think about "how will I be, when my daughter will step into the roll of being my caregiver?" My Mom and MIL said that they didn't want to move and wanted to died in there own place. It was very dificult to move my Mom. She lived in a loverly place in the mountains 32 miles out of town. She just could not live in her place any more, we moved her 2.5 years again and she is always wanting to take a trip back to her home. We have kept it, to we have a place to visit. She becomes very depressed when thinking about her home. I keep thinking about how I feel now and not being able to take her over there when she wants. Then I think, I don't want to put my kids in my shoes. My MIL, 94, is wanting to die in her condo, and it is not longer safe for her to live alone. She is fighting us tooth and nail. I just don't want the same for my children.
Can we have plans in place to prevent this samething happening for our children? I keep saying in my head now, it doesn't matter where I live when I get older and can't take care of myself. I do not want to become attached to a house, to have to die there. I think this is one stress caregivers may feel about what will happen when we age and I have not seen a discussion on this matter.