What I wish the medical professionals ....

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... did, knew, said, understood about caring for elders.

Personally, I'd love to see a roundtable discussion with MedPros on one side and family/full-time caregivers on the other. Short of that (since I don't see that happening any time soon), I'll start with a few items on my list ...

- Don't assume all elders act/respond the same
- Assume the caregivers probably know more than you do about THIS patient


Good idea Ladee!

that they would understand how difficult it is to take them to the doctor each time we suspect there may be an urinary tract infection. Please just allow us to bring in a specimen for testing.

- Know that something is wrong if the bedridden patient is publicly way too verbally abusive to his caregiver (but very nice to his other children). And quit telling the patient that he has a very sharp mind before talking individually the family.
- Don't feel insulted if the patient's family mentions another "health symptom" along with the current major one.
Oh, don't get me started on our medical professionals. In this area we have assembly line medicine. It is like the patients are stamped with a number on their forehead and put on the belt. No one really seems to care. A good example is the prescription refill line at the University system here. You leave a voice mail, saying what is needed and other pertinent information. Maybe they'll call it in, maybe they won't. Usually it takes two tries to get the prescription or a call in from the pharmacy.

I miss the old days where doctors actually cared enough to make house calls. Now they don't even care enough to return a phone call.
As a visiting "medPro" I'm glad to see these suggestions. Thanks for the tips, and thanks for all you do for aging people.
That when I tell them my mom (and formerly dad) is hard of hearing they need to increase their volume when talking, or they aren't being good care providers! I've had this with both my mom AND dad. You'd think docs who specialize in elder care would understand the need to S-L-O-W D-O-W-N when talking with folks in their 90s and would speak LOUDLY enough so they can hear what the doc is saying. I wind up repeating everything the doctors say because I can tell my folks can't hear them or understand them. And the docs STILL don't speak up! GRRRRRRR!!!!
If you can't handle a condition, suggest someone who can. If you aren't up on how to treat dementia, admit it and refer the patient to someone who specializes in it.
Treat all senior citizen as seriously as their younger counterparts. I am tired of looking out for my own care and doing my own research. Keep visiting doc you will get an earful but thanks for caring enough to come here
Don't assume, if I seek help from you because I'm stressed, exhausted and getting the usual symptoms of those, that I will be relieved to hear from you that my mother probably won't be with us for much longer… (I'm sure he meant it consolingly. Idiot.)

Do, on the other hand, be an exact copy of my mother's own doctor who is BRILLIANT.
this is just not a sexist post. i very much respect women but im unimpressed that many female medical professionals would look down on or even discount a male caregiver. no its not in my imagination. ive been treated horribly by female medical personnel based on my gender and appearance.
Just curious ... did you get a better reception from male doctors, captain?

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