Welcome to caregiving for your elderly parent, you morally corrupt scoundrels!
Now that you are a caregiver to an elderly parent expect to be under suspicion for all crimes against the elderly imagined by each Tom, Dick and Harriet you have to deal with while making arrangements to manage your parent's life. Every effort to help where the elderly parent can no longer handle it on their own will not only be met with resistance from the parent requiring many long discussions and debates but if you manage to convince them that they should accept the help you will have some ignorant clerk undo your hard earned success by dropping suggestive hints to persuade the parent how they should not trust you. Expect the parent's doctors and no less than the entire hospital's eldercare department to hound you on the phone making inquiries, arranging appointments, making demands that this and that must be done without regard for a practical means to accomplish each task. Nevermind that your elderly parent is routinely abusive towards you. It is your responsibility to take care of them. Forget about taking care of yourself and your own family. You are now a zero in this world. How convenient it is to dump everything on the sucker trying to take care of the ungrateful coot. Expect your siblings to stab you in the back while they find every way to get out of pitching in. Their contribution will be unsolicited advice and criticism. They will not miss the opportunity to use your position as an excuse not to do anything....."Well you are the one with POA, you do it" Really? You mean my having POA means you cannot make a point to check whether a refrigerator door is closed so the food doesn't rot? You cannot tell me whether it looks like the car has been moved (aka driven) since I confiscated the keys because it was too dangerous for him to drive? My having POA prevents you from doing some dishes and straightening up the house? But if I unknowingly do anything that jeopardizes some perk they have their eyes on I'll hear of it. Welcome to caregiving for your elderly parent, you morally corrupt scoundrels!