Warning! Caregiving can be dangerous to your health.
At what point do we draw the line in caregiving? I went to a doctor recently, and discovered that I have a bleeding ulcer, ostearthritis ( severe in my spine ) and stress. I do not blame my FIL for any of this, but rather ask myself, when is enough, enough?
I am also a recovering addict ( morphine ) and feel blessed that I received help and support from NA meetings.
Just about everyone tells me that I am doing a wonderful thing, but it never feels like that. Most days, I feel resentful and stressed.
I have been his primary caregiver going on four years. I am a devout believer in God and Christ, but many times feel like it is all a test or punishment ( although I do believe that God is a loving God).
Please, if you are new to caregiving, consider all the options. You have to take care of yourself first, communicate, and use all the help available. I now take full advantage of the Hospice volunteers, so that I can do things for myself. My FIL does not like it, but now, I have no problem in that department.
My husband has just now realized ( his dad is an alcoholic ), that his father mainly just cares about himself. Comming from a dysfunctional family myself, I know how that can be a serious wake-up call.
There are so many issues in dealing with caregiving and it is never just about the illness, but encompasses all problems, past and present.
God bless all.