Visits with my mom are so unpleasant. I am the bad guy.
Mom has dementia and I have taken guardianship of her. She doesn't think there is anything wrong with her and says I am just "after her money". I have her in a nice assisted living facility but visits with her are just awful. She keeps asking when she can go home but i know she can't. My presence just makes her angry and she yells and I get upset. She has said some truly hurtful and awful things to me and about me. I feel guilty because I don't even want to go see her.To make matters worse, my dad is in decent shape and living at home with daily assistance. This makes her angry with him. I think she sees it as " unfair". After 60+ years of marriage, he misses her and is having a hard time accepting her condition and the fact that she can't be at home any longer. I have no brothers or sisters to help me with them. I live an hour away and own a business that requires a great deal of my time and attention. The guilt and stress of this situation is making me sad and despondent. I even feel guilty for focusing on how this affects me when my parents are going through such an awful time. If I didn't have a wonderful, helpful wife I would really be at the end of my rope. Help!