Visiting parent in assisted living/memory care home.
We moved my mom into a assisted living/memory care home a short while ago. When my brother visits he tells me she is in a good mood, and looking forward to meals. The aids/nurses say that she is adjusting fine and has taken part with some activities. When I visit it's a totally different story, mom tells me that she isn't sleeping, people are being mean, people are in her room, no one comes to check on her or help her.
I was the one who took care of mom for almost a year as we lived together. I wonder if she presents different to me as she knows that I was the one she felt safe with and would take care of any problems or if she is playing the guilt card with me?
I am wondering if I should limit my visists to a couple a week to let her become more accustom to where she is now or if she'll think I have deserted her.