Mom and I took a vacation and it was a complete disaster! I need to vent.
Why did I do it? I dreaded it the entire week beforehand. I had good intentions to take her to the city where she grew up but here's what happened....I unpacked some of the van and took her to the room. The beds were way too high for her. Why I didnt' book a handicapped room I don't know. She's 5 feet tall. They moved us to a handicapped room with only one bed! So we left for another hotel. Great room but the heat went out. In the meantime, I forgot a connecting piece for her oxygen tubing so that sent us into fighting like cats and dogs. We finally found a supplier in town. One thing went wrong after another. We both agreed the trip wasn't meant to be. Then the heat went out and we moved again to a 2 bedroom suite which was awesome but We still fought. the last two days we fought less and I will remember our bonding.
I feel SO GUILTY I became a monster calling her every name in the book. I'm in perimenopause and am increasingly full of rage these days. I feel SO GUILTY for treating her that way. She just got on my nerves with everything that she did and in response to her abuse. I think I needed to take a vacation from her not with her. She was abusive too.
Now that I'm on vacation, she called me with a question about where to put her pension statement so the aide from the agency won't see it. I told her to make a list of her questions and call me once a week with them. Fat chance. I think she has cognitive impairment because I tell her over and over what to do and she still asks me the same question.
I feel like I can't get away from her. Why am I so selfish? I should put myself in HER shoes so I stop judging her!