I posted about a month ago about mom needing a new bathroom sink. She always lets my middle age brother pick any appliances needed for the house. She has for many years. He has personality disorder and has to find the right one which takes time to research. With the bathroom sink, I had to threaten my my mom that if my brother didn't get her a sink in a reasonable time period I would show up at her house with a plummer and a sink. I even ended up paying for the sink to get it as soon as possible. My brother did get the sink.
Now the dishwasher just burned out and wont work. Of course, mom says she has to let my brother decide on the new dishwasher. She has let him control her for 20 years.
Mom is on a walker, 88 years old and sort of frail. She rinses the dishes and pots and puts them in the dishwasher and takes them out. My brother won't do it. There is a woman that comes once a week to wash clothes and clean up. But it only once a week. No one to help her with the dishes any other time. I don't want to go through a bunch of phone calls threatening mom and waiting and worrying each day did my brother order the sink yet or not. And I'm not paying for the dishwasher. I'm sick of my mom and the problems. I live an hour and a half away from her. My brother lives 20 minutes away.