Update: so dad has been pressuring me to take him to uhaul or to bring him all of his money. I finally had enough courage to say no.
I have posted twice about dad's intentions of moving. He has started packing, a sad attempt to behold. He started in two weeks ago about taking him to uhaul, so me, the big chicken I am, just cancelled outings. I would stop by on my way to or from office, super busy just wanted to say hi, see how you are doing. Well, he finally gets straight to the point, I want you to come take me to uhaul. Dad, I can not help you commit suicide, I'll not help you. Gets p***ed off right now, then bring me all of my money, go to the bank right now and get my money. Sorry dad, you said someone stole 20.00 off your headboard, I'm not bringing thousands of dollars here. Before he could say more , well gotta go bye. Like my butts on fire I am outta there. He gets it in his head and is obsessive about leaving. Can't remember what was for lunch but can't forget that he's leaving. Of course he has told everyone that will listen that he has bought a travel trailer and has built an rv park and is going to go live there. He has these friends that have agreed to care for him. I hear this part and DH and I decided that a phone call was in order, if they are really willing then maybe I should take him back, cuz it would be so much easier for me, I am actually planning the trip when DH says, don't get ahead of yourself you don't know till you call😝😝😝. So, I make the call and find out that yes they have talked to him but, no they can not care for him, she has severe COPD and is on oxygen 24/7 and he works. They had no idea that he has CHF, renal failure, dementia and all of the other challenges he faces daily. Their response was, he hasn't been honest with us at all. Apparently I forced him to come down here then just abandoned him. He was planning on going to Canada to gold mine with this friend that nobody knows. I am getting frantic calls from everyone, you have to stop him, he can't drive, he has no place to go, he is too sick, I can't have him here. Really, I have been telling you how sick he is and you all have been encouraging (humoring) him that if he can get there you'll talk about it, it being him staying with them. Now he is packing up to head out, and I need to do something. His sister texted me that he needs to learn the word no, and she is sorry that I have to be the one to say it. (I am becoming an expert at being thrown under the bus) she is only happy it's not her, they (his friends and family) have said we never thought he would actually come. So, I have begged, pleaded, yelled and cried trying to stop him. I'm a stupid lying fn b, so no listening to me.
Yesterday, my dear husband went and told him the facts of the situation, no arguing because we are not having a conversation, I'm telling you, if you try to drive, law enforcement will be contacted, you do not get to kill anybody's loved ones. Oh by the way, since you have treated my wife so poorly to drive her to the brink of collapse, I have banned her from having any contact with you for the next week. See you later and think about it.
Oh, how I love my man.
I get a text last night that my dad is behaving strangely, he did not like what was served for dinner so he pushes it aside, puts his shoes on the table and asks for cereal to be put in them so he can eat. I just think he is trying to be manipulating, this is the kind of thing that would of had me rushing over to find out what is going on. I know his needs are being met so I am just enjoying my week off.
I think I should have started a discussion, not really a question. I am just so appreciative of the help you all have offered that I want to let you know what's up. I find myself wondering about others that post and vanish so I don't want to do that.