Their ungrateful and nasty attitude despite you bending over backwards and being nice.
Hi, I'm new here :) howdy :) Long story short: I take care of grand dad, 87, with slight case of Dementia, he lives alone. I do the BULK of the caretaking. I'm lucky in that he lives alone (grandma passed away many years ago), he can cook & clean for himself. But he needs help 2 or sometimes 3 days a week with a MULTITUDE of chores (which I wont list). I literaly saved his life at least 3 times. I'm the person who makes him able to live alone--doing everything from preparing his daily prescriptions, taking him all his doctors appointments, picking up his meds, paying all his bills every month, being on call 24/7 for when he does stupid stuff like forgets how to turn the tv on or loses his cane for the 100th time. But the WORST part about everything isn't doing all these chores--its his got damn horrible, rude, NASTY attitude--he literally barks at me, screams at me like I'm a dog after I busted my @$$ spending all day helping him out. He's an ungrateful jerk at times. His nasty attitude & verbal abuse is so horrible that almost NO ONE visits him--despite the fact he has 9 kids and almost 20 grandkids! Example: his son visited him and spent almost 2 hours moving boxes because granddads living room was so cluttered he could barely get around: afterward my Uncle was out of breath and pouring with sweat--but "grand dad" barks at him "Ok, Why are you still here! Dont you have a home to go to!"....The theme is: No matter how much you help him or save him--he rewards you by acting like an Ungrateful Donkey. It honestly IS NOT his dementia that causes this--he was like this BEFORE his dementia... How are you all dealing with this in your own life??? Listening to you may help me vent, or just realize I'm not the only one :) Anyone want to share their own story? :)