My uncle will not allow my grandmother to go on outings.
Nobody phoned me to tell me she was in a nursing home I had to message a family member & ask her if she knew where gram was because I called gram and she usually would always call me back & she didn't so I found that strange.
So I had been taking her out ever since I found out she was in the nursing home every pay week. She enjoys going out & getting a muffin & coffee.
I had some time where i couldn't take her because I was sick & I was looking after my mother inlaw who was ill & she passed away in October.
As long as I keep visiting her she remembers me & last time i took her out when i got there she said Tisha I was just thinking of you!
My kids asked me isn't it strange if she doesn't know who you are & I said "No" I will just keep reminding her who I am if she forgets.
I promised myself that I would not just leave her there to rot. When my Great Aunt Marjory went in a home I was so busy with my own life that I didn't even get to see her & I promised myself that i wouldn't let being busy take away any memories that I can share with my grandmother!
When I went to get my grandmother sunday however @ the saint john st Stephen care home to take her to Dawson's cadet end of the year thing I was told that she wasn't allowed to leave the building.
My Uncle her "Power of Attorney" put a stop to any one taking her out. So she is to sit in the home & rot away I guess. She is being held hostage from any one that loves & cares enough to spend time with her because she has Alzheimer's & Dementia.
I called my uncles & he gave me the big spew about he didn't know i had been taking her out, that she has Alzheimer's what if she doesn't want to go back. In Which I told him I have been taking her out & I haven't had any issues, also I work with Alzheimer's & dementia clients & I am quite capable. He said he hadn't herd from me in years. I told him he moved away that , that was not my fault. I told him that I had always keep in contact with my grandmother Irene McAdam. He said he would let me know in a couple days. I told him that Dawson's Cadet thing is today not in a couple days. I said that was unacceptable. He told me to do what I have to. I then asked him what does that mean? He informed me that he was the "Power of Attorney" So I hung up on him. Then I had to go tell my grandmother that I couldn't take her & I made up the excuse it was because her feet were swollen. So I was late getting to the cadet thing & was upset the whole entire day.Real nice. I'm sure if my Uncle Jeff McAdam was still alive. He wouldn't of allowed this to go on.
Think twice about who you let to be your power of attorney! I would rather the government be her power of attorney then i could have had my grandmother @ my sons cadet thing today!
My uncle preventing me from spending time with my grandmother is just plain out wrong. He needs to do research! Being in a nursing home is not meant to keep them in jail. Alzheimer's & dementia should not be a jail sentence. I am a personal support worker with first aid. I have been working in this line of work for years. I looked after both my mother inlaw who was on oxygen & had pulmonary heart disease & father inlaw who had cancer.
He will be old some day as well & Alzheimer's Dementia can be inherited. I hope his kids put him in a nursing home & just leave him there to die. Weather it is just to Tim Hortons or a drive. It is good for my grandmothers health to get out & get a change of scenery!