Trying to convince a close friend that grandma's dementia isn't getting better.
Well now my closest friend seems to be in denial that my grandma has dementia and he believes she will come home and I can take care her. Grandma had a nasty fall at the personal care home but doesn't remember falling and she fell the same way she did at home. Backwards and hit the back of her head. She has 7 small staples where she landed and a cut on the side of her face as well. Even with that both her and my friend is in denial and both believe she will be home soon. I try to explain to my friend that even if she comes home it won't be good for either of us because she extremely stubborn and will hurt herself and I will be at fault and maybe even get charged with neglect or abuse knowing she needs 24/7 care. He doesn't seem to get her memory lapses or understand how they are. I tried to get him to visit her on more than one occasion but never did but now wants to and wants to her come home. He thinks dementia can be treated and with treatment she should be able to handle herself but she's incontinent and the worse part is she refuses to wear the depends saying that they are for people who are senile. Sadly she is mostly everyday. Her mind comes in goes during the day but she does remember some things but not all and if she remember she'll forget it completely during the week. But he thinks she's okay and should be home. What can I tell him or how to prove to him that she's not okay and home isn't an option without losing the friendship?