Calling all guys out there! Anyone transition from alpha male to compassionate caregiver lately?
I don't consider myself a classic alpa-typeA-aggressive type guy but for most of my working life I was sort of the lead dog, giving orders and having it done my way. I'm now 60, recently retired and due to tragic circumstances have become the sole caregiver for my parents. I should clarify that currently, I'm keeping up with things long distance and making the ten hour trip to my parents as various issues and crises develop. I make no claim to be a caregiver in the sense that many others are, living with their elders or taking elders into their homes. I've had to learn lots of practical stuff and also change my lead dog attitude. Dad with his dementia just doesn't respond well to me barking orders. Mom with depression over dads dementia cries a lot. I'm making changes in the way I relate and understand their many problems but I still have a ways to go. Any thoughts out there? Similar situations?