Trading Mom's health for mine?
So my mother who lives (reluctantly) in an active senior community recently told my aunt and I she no longer wants to live. Her doctor changed her depression and anxiety meds, scheduled an mri, referred her to a psychiatrist and told her she can't be alone until she gets a diagnosis. Of course because I'm the only family here, she's now at my house. I told her she could stay for two weeks until her new meds kicked in, but she is pushing to stay until she gets a diagnosis.
My husband and I bought or first house last August and have had a revolving door of my mom, my aunt, and my niece with us since the week before closing. We have made it perfectly clear that we want our home to ourselves. We finally got everyone out last week and 2 days after my niece left she hit me with this.
My mom moved here where we live 2 years ago and i have been her errand girl assistant, and garbage bag to dump all her worries, fears and frustrations into. I am so tired. It seems it never does and only gets worse. She expects to be my everything bc somehow now that she's older i am her everything and that's just not fair.
Don't get me wrong, she was a good mother. Or relationship has been good; We've lived in different states since i went to college though. My middle sister died 10 years ago though and changed my mom's whole personality and outlook on life. I am so frustrated and this post is probably ask over the place but the bottom line is, she's been trying to sneak into living with us since we bought our home and now she's using her depression to stay there indefinitely.
Igo back and forth along myself if I'm being selfish or is she. I know in my heart that i should be able to live my life just like she lived hers. I'm only 40 for goodness sake!!! Is it wing that we want to be alone??? That we don't want to be overcome by her and her overbearing manipulative ways? She is wire manipulative and now I'm in the position of having to say mom when are you leaving we want our house to ourselves. Sorry this is so long. Any advice would be appreciated.