The Validation Breakthrough.

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I'm reading this book by Naomi Feil about validation techniques for communicating people with Alzheimer's, hoping to improve communication with my LO. Although I'm simplifying here, it essentially means providing sympathetic feedback to dementia patients' complaints to preserve their dignity and help them express themselves; then leading them to some kind of diversion. I was disappointed to understand that this method is ineffective with dementia patients with mental illness; I would presume mental illness includes issues like NPD, BPD, etc. Has anyone tried this technique with NPD or BPD?

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This reminds me of the techniques that I have seen by Teepa Snow on You tube. I find it very inspirational and impressive. There is a video of Naomi Feil using this technique demonstration on You tube. It's very touching and brought my eyes to tears. Have you seen it? I'm going to PM you the link.
Amber, no, I've not had experience with this (with validation, yes, but not with mentally ill person). I imagine the underlying mental illness complicates many aspects of dealing with dementia.

But it certainly could not be harmful to try it. If you do, let us know how it goes.
Sunnygirl, The youtube video was incredible. Feil demonstrated that late-stage demented souls can be reached! Thank you so much. The video brought peace to a very difficult day.
Sunnygirl,
Thanks! I watched it too! Everything is possible.
Jeannegibbs, I tried the validation technique with Mom today. She is early-to-middle stage AD with NPD. It didn't work this time. I was disappointed, but who knows, she might respond later in the disease. In the meantime, I will continue to try.
I'm glad that you were inspired by that You Tube video. I'm going to share it with the staff at my LO's MC facility. They likely have already been trained, but, still.

Whenever, I visit my LO in the MC facility, I try to touch her arm, shoulder, etc. As long as she seems content, I do that. I also always hug and kiss her cheek when arriving and leaving. So, I'm going to increase it a little more. My LO is still verbal, but, only with short sentences or just words that don't really make sense.
I'm glad that you were inspired by that You Tube video. I'm going to share it with the staff at my LO's MC facility. They likely have already been trained, but, still.

Whenever, I visit my LO in the MC facility, I try to touch her arm, shoulder, etc. As long as she seems content, I do that. I also always hug and kiss her cheek when arriving and leaving. So, I'm going to increase it a little more. My LO is still verbal, but, only with short sentences or just words that don't really make sense, but, I never let her know that. I keep talking like things are fine and try to just make positive comments, asking her things with yes or no answers. 
Sunnygirl,
The part about never letting your loved one know that they are not making sense......maybe that will work with dH.

He cannot, however, answer ANY question with a "yes" or "No". Everyone is different.

Maybe I will try not asking him anything for awhile.
Thanks.
Sendhelp,
That's just my way of trying to make her feel normal, the way we used to talk. I try to make it seem like I get it. It seems to work okay. For example, if I ask her how she's feeling and she says, "The part was over in the next part." I don't seem shocked or expect her to explain that. I just respond with, "Okay. It's good that the parts are getting to the right location. Let's go see what kind of parts we can see down the hallway. Can you follow me in your wheelchair?" And we move on.
When dH growls, that never makes sense to me.

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