my mother is 87 and is so stubborn. she is refusing to wash, (dressing now recently becoming an issue too )she is not eating ,only drinks Complan she wont use a walking frame, so she just sits all day. my father has dementia and he is the main caregiver to her. the house smells, they refuse to have any caregiver come into the home,these are just some of the problems I have. my siblings also do what they can but my parents expect a lot from all of us. they live near me so my mother expects me to be at her beck and call.. I do as much as I can,but I have my own handicapped child and take care of my own family as a single parent. I help out with my grandchildren and find it very difficult to keep up with my mothers constant complaints and demands on me. I don't know what my question is really. I just need someone to understand. I am neglecting myself caring for everybody else.