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Happy New Year Yoda!

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See y'all later.
Very very busy here today.
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Hi Yoda! Happiest of years to you!
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Happy New Year Yoda! Long time, no hear. Hope you are well.
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Happy New Year, Yoda!
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Just stopping by to wish everyone a happy or a happier new year!
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Sharyn my deepest condolences. So sorry for your loss.
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Sharyn,

So happy that you are able to find comfort in scriptures that are meaningful to you.

It’s difficult to lose siblings. Our families reduce in size as we age. Even though we don’t want to see them suffering anymore, we still miss them in our lives.

Thinking of you and sending hugs your way.
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Sharyn, May The Lord give you and your family grieving mercies and comfort during this time.
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Philippians 4:7 brings me comfort right now.

thank you everyone. I am so proud of my niece because she did not feel she could handle bringing her mama back to her home. She did it and right now it is overwhelming to her but I know in coming months she will be comforted that she did. I am so happy my sis was surrounded by her family inKentucky. I am very grateful for the happy memories I made with my sis while in Kentucky. We had great laughs as she was getting better. Thank you again.
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Sharyn, thinking of you.
Thinking that now peace can start.
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Sharyn, so sorry. God Bless.
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Dear Sharyn, deep condolences.
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My deepest condolences.
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I'm so sorry, Sharyn.
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((((((Hugs))))) Sharyn. Deepest condolences on the loss of your sis. Such a difficult time of year for this to happen. Please take care of yourself.
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So sorry for your loss Sharyn . ((((Hugs)))
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So sorry for the loss of your sister, Sharyn. It’s hard to lose someone any time of year but I think it’s harder during the holidays.

Wishing you peace during this difficult time. Hugs 🫂 !
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My sis passed away with her family by her side late this afternoon.
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(((((Sharyn)))))... thinking of you today. I'm so sorry. 💔
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Ali,

Good for you! You’re wise to know that you have no control over how others feel.

It’s liberating to let things go rather than trying to convince others that their way of thinking isn’t the best.
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Thank you everyone. It’s has been a hard journey. I had many great laughs with my sis while in Kentucky that I will cherish. My sis is being brought to her home this evening with hospice care. I made arrangements with my great nephews wife to pick up a sandwich platter that I prepaid to bring to my sisters house for the family. My other great nephew flew in from Africa and my nieces daughter will be there from Florida.

Arrangements had been made before our mother passed in 2016 for my sis to be cremated and her ashes placed with our parents in California. We will have a graveside service in late spring 2024

Ali, I totally understand you keeping the peace with family. God bless you for doing that. It is hard but we do have to realize it’s not on us but on the dysfunctional members that have not evolved.

thank You all again and sending my heartfelt hugs and prayers for everyone.
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Well my Christmas was sort of as expected.

I stayed quiet most of the evening. But then we got into a big discussion about my schizophrenic brother and the hell the family went through over the years. The biggest incident that occurred during my childhood was one time he attacked my mom. I was the one that broke that up because I had been up watching and waiting like I did most nights during that period. My narc sister has somehow rewritten that night. I called her on it and that was my mistake. Should have kept my mouth shut like Ali suggested. Narc sis and I usually keep a distance between us and that started the ball rolling.

Another thing that happened that irked me is when we were leaving narc sis was fawning all over my hubs telling him how handsome he looked and rubbing his shoulders. She has done this all my life with different guys I dated etc. Small thing it would seem but I think she does it to bug me. Plus if I ever even walked into a room with her and one of her boyfriends she would say "WHAT ARE YOU DOING IN HERE!" So consider me irked.

Hubs has been beaming since then having had his ego stroked. Good for him I guess.

Yeah, Christmas...................Sigh
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Wow Ali. I get staying silent in front of the turkeys* in order to see the ones you DO want to see, especially if just once or twice a year.

*wasps, boars, snakes, crocs or whatever describes them best

It seems they have not developed human manners.
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*"holding my tongue completely." What I mean is--I've come a long way towards letting anything and everything roll off me, staying out of disagreements, and/or also interpreting things/words/behaviors in the nicest way possible.

I still see some room to continue growing here, though. During a get-together with my cousin, I piped up once with some protest about something she was saying and instantly regretted it because she started yelling at me.

My goal is to NEVER speak up on ANYTHING that could become argumentative. Not even once. Zip it. 🤐 I can speak only in pleasant, generic ways, try to show general sympathy and support and show love to them the best I can, and it's enough. I'm never going to have the respect of the bullies in my family, and that's ok.

That goal may change someday, but it's how I can keep the peace for now. I'd like to see my family in person and not have arguments. Sometimes, it seems impossible. But I can speak in de-escalating tones and words, and for now, that is mostly working. Yay, progress..?

Thanks for letting me get my thoughts down here.

Hope everyone had a nice holiday time if you celebrated. And if it wasn't such a nice time because your family puts the "d" in dysfunction like mine does, then feel free to share because I can definitely commiserate.
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(((((Sharyn))))) What a difficult time your sis has had, and you and your niece, too, because of this progression. We all probably take our times of good health for granted, and truly, things can and do arise out of seemingly nowhere. No one's getting any younger or healthier; it's always going the other way, but we hope and pray for good health and a solid mind to continue as long as possible. I'm so sorry for your sis' decline. 😔 And I'm sorry you had to tell DIL to leave you alone in order for her to understand that she's being rude and crossing boundaries. That's never pleasant. I'm glad you had a peaceful Christmas Day with hubs.

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I had some moments of dysfunction with family this year, but overall, it was a good holiday time, and I'm grateful that once-very-difficult relationships are much milder. I will likely always be actively holding my tongue and "making nice" at holidays to keep any friction to a minimum. I'm more than okay with doing that for the rest of my life. I used to take some things personally; I don't anymore. I'm never changing anyone, and if they insist on being unpleasant at times during the ONE time I see them in person each year, that's on them.

I want to do better at holding my tongue COMPLETELY. It's ALWAYS interesting to be around my family for the holidays. 😅
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Hugs and prayers Sharyn.
Praying for comfort in your sorrow.

You and sis had reconnected. That is a wonderful thing to happen.
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Mom is now in assisted living, but basically 24/7 care. She fought it, but no alternative as she cannot walk, even with a walker. Been diagnosed with congestive heart failure, a-fib, moderate renal issues, adema in feet/legs, arthritis. She is now throwing up or sick to her stomach a lot. The good thing they are monitoring her, getting new meds. Sibling thinks she’s not got long, but I am not sure. She shows some interest now in activities, cannot attend yet. Did eat some food on her own; sibling thinks they must come and hand feed her when staff said no, let’s try to empower her a little (if possible).

She’s also had screaming matches with the staff, not wanting to be changed. Yelled at me that the clothes I got out of her home were not hers. She had so much stuff that she probably forgot about most items.

I don’t know if the stomach upset is a sign of worsening conditions? I may email the head of nursing. I am about 6 hours away and sibling is gatekeeping information at times.
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Lily, I’m sorry you are going through this as well. People mean well, but sometimes they do need to be more sensitive to what others are going through. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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I hope everyone had a quiet Christmas Day. We went out to dinner with our daughter’s family on the 24th. On Christmas Day it was just my hubs and myself which worked perfectly as my sis was put on comfort care.

it was a difficult decision my niece couldn’t make by herself. After I talked on the phone with the dr, my niece and I decided together. I told her she was not alone and I would help her. It’s all in Gods hands now.
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So sorry for what you are going through, Sharyn. Some in laws (and people in general) just don’t get it. It’s hard to grasp how people can be so self centered. I’m caring for my mom in hospice over Christmas and I have people pressuring to attend events that I don’t want to go to, or exchange gifts when I was barely able to get anything for my immediate family.
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