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i have a friend i have known since my nursing school days 1986 . she believes in karma and feels this is some sort of karmic thing i have to endure because of my faults in a past life. that my sister died because she full filled her time and karam on earth ( which is true , she was a awesome person and my nest friend. my sister died qug 10 , 2013 of sudden cardiac death at age 49 years old) . i am my mother's only caregiver and i am all she has , my brother is useless and offers no help . he lives out of state , even better for him. anyway she thinks this is something i must endure and learn from. i just thought i must of been really bad in a past life to endure this.. what do you think of this thinking? have you ever thought of this? i haven't until now .

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It really comes down to what you believe...to me karma just means what comes around goes around. Honor what you believe and don't focus on what others tell you or what what you believe. You are fine just as you are.
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Thank God for pets! We also have 2 indoor outdoor ones, and several ferals we feed. Plus shared custody..LOL of my daughters Tiny chihuahua. The folks love them... They are good company and entertainment..
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i want to come back as one of my cats too ! one of my kitties lola trixiebell is my avatar .. i have 2 other lydia who is a maine coon and 15 years old ( i've had her since she was a baby) then i have Fiona who is a tabby and she is 3 almost 4 years old. they are spoiled. you made me feel better ty
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If reincarnation is real, I want to come back as one of MY cats... Don;t let the Karma stuff get you down.. I;m sure you have your own belief system and it will work for you. I did get a chuckle about Coy's wife!
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hahaha whacked is right. i haven't talked to her again ... i don't know much about karma and reincarnation so i thought .. i have alot of anxiety now and after my sister died i felt so overwhelmed because i have mom and dad and then i hear this whacky stuff and it freaked me out .. it made me go backward in grief process and i felt really unsure about life. i slammed the phone in her ear and just cried , i have already felt more emotions than i knew i had .. thank you debralee i laughed when i read she was whacked hahahahaha thank you
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Your friend is wacked. Karma comes from within and how you live your life and the decisions you make that make you spirtually whole. No one can determine someone elses karma. You are mourning your sister and miss her so very much. No true friend would ever tell you to endure emotional pain. Dump the friend, give yourself time to heal from your sister's death and do what you feel is best to help your mother.
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Dear Oh; be good to yourself. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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thank you all !! you made me feel much better ! i agree totally ,, some people just make life worse and more complicated. i also had a friend tell me that my sister who died is no longer my sister because she will be reincarnated...omgggg i am under enough stress ughhhhhhhhh i just listen and say ah huh and think my sister will always be my sister ... ughhhhhhh i miss her so much i cry myself to sleep and wake up crying. she was my best friend and i miss her ,,, people are so callous ...
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I am a big believer in the idea that you have to live in the here and now and not worry too much about past errors. Life is for the living; God gave us brains to figure things out. Just because something is difficult does not make it good for us, or for the poor patient! Do what is best for your mom.
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Hmmm... thinking of it like this. Can you imagine how crazy life would get if we lived for a FUTURE life that we don't know about. Yikes.
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Pam, I love it!

ohmeowzer, new age type friends can make you crazy. Normally they're supportive, but sometimes they say stuff like this. The trouble is that the hypothesis that you are paying your karmic debt is not testable in this worldly realm. Can you imagine how crazy life would get if we lived for a past life that we don't even know about?
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Some people believe in karma, in reincarnation, in purgatory, in angels, in ... well lots of things. Honor your own beliefs.

My SIL once told me that God never gives you more than you can handle. I said, "Oh, poor Coy! He should certainly have married a different woman." She hastened to assure me that she knew I was strong and capable and would handle whatever came my way." I said, "Yes, but if Coy had married a weaker person who couldn't handle his care, then God would not have given him dementia!"

I guess it generally annoys me when people assume their beliefs apply to my life, and feel perfectly entitled to tell me about them. I'm afraid I would not have very polite to your friend. She can apply her karma theories to her own life and much as she likes. I'd draw the line at listening to her interpret my life according to her beliefs. She is perfectly welcome to her thoughts about it, but I don't have to listen to them!

You will learn from your caregiving experience. We all do.
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Pam, I *love* that idea of the stone with "nothing" on it. I may have to get one of those!
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oh you always give good advice and make me feel better. thank you so much . i am so relieved. i'm pretty alone in this battle and never sure if i'm doing the right thing. thank you soo much .. if i could hug you i would .. i'm glad i'm ok ..i thought i must have been a horrible selfish person at one time and now it's my turn to learn. .. i've always been a good person and my mom has lived with me for over 15 yeears i have always put her first . ,, thank you
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I have a boulder in my garden, and laser carved in it is the word "NOTHING". I told my kids "Nothing is carved in stone. No matter how GOOD life is, no matter how BAD life is, it will always change." So nothing is wrong with you, or your karma, chi, spirit or angel. Yin and Yang. Darkness and Light. The key to survival is to not get stuck in one place. Keep moving.
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Good grief this post looks like i''m a crazy person... it just struck me as weird when she said that .. which made me feel worse , because if i do decide to put mom in a asissted living home am i gonna have to do this again? ooooh nooooooo noooo
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