Things are much better since I told Mom the truth.
I was having a great deal of difficulty with mom (with dementia) wanting, begging and demanding to go home from assisted living. I tried to divert the conversation, "therapeutic fibbing", putting her off, etc. and nothing worked. Finally, I just told her the truth. I said, "mom, we are not taking you home"! "You are so much better now than you were at home and you are safe". This is where we feel that you need to be". After getting angry, she settled down and has not mentioned going home again. I'm not saying that this will work for everyone, but I just couldn't bear the thought that she woke up every morning expecting to go home. I know she may forget this in a few days, but I will just consistently say the same thing and keep moving forward. I've told my family to say the same thing to her if she asks them about going home and everyone has agreed.