How do I tell my mother her last sister died?
I found out yesterday that an aunt I'm close with (mom's sister, who's she's close with), died yesterday morning. She lived out of state and her husband has already made arrangements for cremation, but how do I explain this to mom being it was so sudden?
For those of you who have read some of my other posts, my mom is extremely selfish and controlling. So this is just going to make today all the more difficult. Mom had a sister die 10 years ago. She took it hard. Then her mother died not too long after that. Now her last sister who she was also close too died suddenly.
I'm sick at the thought of having to tell her. Her reaction could go one of many ways and due to her past behaviors it may be a rocky road now for mom. (ie, to get attention get sick so people come running to her side, etc)
I called the assisted living to let them know and to work out a plan to keep dad away while I tell mom. Dad with Alzheimer's is too protective of her and won't let her grieve or get ticked off at me for upsetting mom. I just don't want to do this and its 3 1/2 hrs til kickoff of news. I don't even know if I can tell her without crying my eyes out because I loved my aunt dearly. I was trying to get her up to our state to care for her since she had no family down there.
Well off to another day and another migraine and tears.