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I hate being surrounded by "old." These are my "not old" years..............but I might as well be old myself - prematurely because I'm living it. :(
Anyone else feel this way sometimes?

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Well done Vstefans that surely is a batch of honor. i am lucky if i can get up a short flight of stairs with the Neurologist beating me from behind and the nurse walking backwards in front of me to catch me when I fall.
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Yup.. I'll be 54 on the 16th and I live like my 93 yr old Mom..

I get up at 5 am, eat dinner at 5pm go to bed right after Mom around 7:30...

I watch stupid game shows and spend way too much time at Dr offices...

I feel your pain..
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Congrats Vstefans,,,you are an inspiration...especially since I have been to the doctor and got a colossal chewing over high blood pressure, high blood sugar, weight, stress, stress, stress.....thanks for sharing. We all have put the old ahead of whatever chapter of life we should be in!

Curtain....I like your analogy of an upside down pyramid scheme....the greatest generation really had it all...the ability to be self made people in an era of fast advancement in education, careers and business building. Most never had to caregive AT ALL. My parents did not have to caregive for any of their parents. In fact I can remember how put out my mother was taking care of her mother for a whole week after a hospital stay.

I guess my point is we have to do whatever we can to treat ourselves better physically and mentally. Grab whatever sunshine, joy and enrichment that is left to us for our own older years. Cheers!
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Congrats Vstefans! Sounds like you can beat back the "old" taking over your life or at least go up the stairs really fast to get away for a while. I agree too there is something terrible in the timing. To me it's a combination of at least the following factors: people live longer now in worse physical and mental condition than they ever have before, modern diets cause numerous chronic health problems that don't end life but disable, the current older generation has expectations of their children that don't make sense given modern times but maybe did make sense years ago when the elderly had only short periods of debilitated old age and one income could support many people.

Susan, yep totally agree about the shape of that pyramid and the efforts of the younger generation feeding into the older one. Up to a point that doesn't seem crazy, but it seems it has gone too far. I am struggling to stay financially afloat just to support myself and yet my mother thinks nothing of trying to manipulate me into doing errands for her. Errands that cost me working hours that she doesn't (and can't) pay me for. She simply does not want to pay people to do things and if I refuse she just does without or even puts herself in danger. I'm worried things are going to come to a very unpleasant crisis soon.
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Don't worry, Glad! You are already ahead of everyone in the moving marathon! And, you are winning! You deserve a medal too!
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Yea VStefans. Pretty soon we'll be able to say we knew you when. Ariba!
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Vstefans! You can do that? Amazing, and congratulations!!
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Congrats Vstefans! Great job! I wouldn't even want to try.:(
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Caregiving and watching a parent age and die really ages you too. Some days I can be happy go lucky and sing the "if the whisky don't get me I'll live til I die" and plan on working another 20 years (I'm 58) and other days, mortality and endings are all that's on my mind. Something bad changed with this generation - timing of having children, diabetes and obesity, who knows what else, and messed us all up thoroughly.

On the plus side, I did a "Climb For Air" event for Lung Association fundraising - it was climbing 38 flights to the top of a bank building downtown here - and I made third place in my age group! I exercise but am athletically non-talented and I can't even remember that I have ever won or placed in anything athletic at all in my whole life, so that was a great shot in the arm for me. I will cherish that silly little finisher medal forever! Try to do some little thing for the first time whenever you get a chance and it will make you feel younger. I'm cheering myself up just writing about it. :-)
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Curtain, I can identify with that. I'm not 50 yet myself, but have already lost my father and my mom is already in a nursing home. When they were my age, they were still very vital and active, going on road trips, Dad was working full time, they had children to take care of and they visited their parents a few times a year (they lived 600+ miles away) - but they never had to caregive their parents. My paternal grandfather died when I was 13 or 14, my grandmother when I was in my 20's, and my maternal grandmother passed away when I was in my 30s - but all of them either died suddenly or were placed in a nursing home - neither of my parents ever had to caregive their parents at all.

You're right - it seems like some weird pyramid scheme - but the pyramid is upside down. The narrow point of the pyramid is our parents, not having caregiving responsibilities, and the wide part is us - caregiving our parents at an age when we should be doing the empty nest thing - or close to it - and instead finding ourselves back in the caregiving game again, but for our parents, not our kids.
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