As I was just taking a breath to say maybe things were going to settle down and I can get part of my life back, then big laugh on me. Found out that my mom had taken a loan out to buy / build this new house, $84,000 (quick background: mom started building a house in Nov. 2015, had a dietetic event in January 2016 has not recovered). With the interest some how it is $96,000 now. This just makes me want to cry. Trying to figure out how long she can be in an ALF before needing full time memory care. But now we have to start paying back this loan. Oh but wait, she will not let us sell this house. Lawyer says I can't because she has not been deemed incompetent and has the right to keep it. But doctor says she can not be trusted to manage her insulin meds. Seriously, this is to much. Sigh, Scream, Cry.