I've been struggling with the decision to send my husband to assisted living. I don't want this to be selfish on my part.
My husband had surgery April 12, April 25 and May 21. On April 12th I was told he has dementia and the anesthesia caused confusion and hallucinations. He was very difficult to deal with. He's had inpatient therapy for all of the surgeries in a nursing home. Today, I was told by social worker and therapists that they definitely recommend he go to Assisted Living when he is released next week and continue with therapy. I feel such a burden since the decision is all mine and am concerned that some family members may disagree, but they have not been involved as much as I have been and won't be affected as much as I will be when he is released. He was told by his doctor this week that he can no longer handle financial matters and can no longer drive. He has not commented on this direction from the doctor. I'm concerned he will deny it was mentioned. He is very stubborn. Since the medical professionals and almost everyone I know agree that assisted living is appropriate, I'm inclined to agree. I'm just so concerned about his reaction when he is told he'll be going to assisted living and I will become the bad guy. Would appreciate any comments and have also appreciated comments I'v received before re: this matter.