It's still summer and she wants to turn the heat on!

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The temp went down to 45* last night but it's warmed up to 80* now. I said open up the windows and let the warm air in. "No I'm cold"

At least I got her to go sit on the deck in the sun.

I dread the oil bill....I have a running joke with my oil man, when I see him coming I go outside and yell "go away"! He laughs because I'm his best customer..$$$$

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That's a great idea Jilly! I would take care that she isn't too cold though. I know that when I go to the Memory Care unit, it is very warm all the time. I ask her if she's too hot and she's never too hot. I think they are happier when not too cold. I think if you think of what is comfortable and add 10 degrees, that's about right.
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Sunnygirl we are thinking of doing that as well. Actually, MIL always has the furnace "checked" in the fall and has been mentioning it, so I think I'll have them over and see if on the QT I can have them put the working thermostat down in our suite and leave a hers upstairs as a dummy where she thinks she is controlling it but really isn't.
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Dementia turned my cousin from a hot natured person into a COLD natured person. She was turning her theromstat up to 90 in the summer time! Until I get her into a facility, I had to put a clear plastic locked box on the thermostat.
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We live in suite in MIL's home t who has beginnings of alzheimers/dementia. She upstairs, us below. She just home from a month in hospital and is freezing. Upon going to bed last night night my husband checked the thermostat outside her upstairs bedroom and it was 73, he turned it down to 66 to sleep. At 4 a.m. we woke to boiling air and realized the furnace was kicking in every few minutes and of course it blows down into our faces and I'm my MIL'S caregiver and I suffer from chronic migraines and of course now I have a migraine. My husband goes upstairs and the thermostat is back up to 74! This morning he goes up and asks her if she was cold in the night. She says she doesnt know. He tells her about the heat. She says if shes cold she turns the heat up. But she sleeps with just one thin blanket on her bed and a thin or even no night clothes except a thin top and pants. He says maybe she needs to put a warm quilt on her bed rather than cranking the heat up. She says she is tired of him nattering at her, breaks into tears and says maybe she should just move into a home! The irony is that she is the most selfish lady, natters at us constantly, is completely ungrateful and never thinks of anyone BUT herself and this is the first time we have said anything to her! The fact of the matter is if I am going to be fit to care for her I need my sleep and I need not to wake up at 4 a.m. with migraines. Homecare comes today. We pick up her chemo drugs today. She gets a haircut today. She has lab tests today. All of which I am responsible for. Plus her meals, meds which she fights me about and dressing etc!! I am exhausted and in pain!! I want to burst into tears and move into a home!!
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FF your mom is in the hospital?? What did I miss?? My Mom is also always freezing.. and hubs runs hot... this week they have been playing "door wars". He opens the doors to let fresh air in.. she is cold and shuts them. Glad I have been at work so I am OUT of this arguement!
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Windy, your Dad sounds like my Mom. My Dad has to sneak open a bedroom window to get fresh air once Mom falls asleep and close it before she wakes up. Inside temp is usually at rain forest level. Mom is bundled up with her thermal clothing... and Dad is walking around barefoot with shorts and a sleeveless undershirt. In winter he will put on shoes.

Now that my Mom is in the hospital, I was trying to adjust the darn gumit programmable thermostat to make it cooler. Whomever invented those things should never invent anything else, ever. I plan to call the heating contractor and ask them to put in a simple thermostat that anybody can use. I want Dad's caregivers to keep coming back !!
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My folks live in WV. The heat goes on in Oct and the AC comes on in April. Sometimes the heat runs in the am and the AC in the pm. There hasn't been a window opened since the Carter Administration. If I ever so covertly sneak open a window or two on a nice afternoon my dad will eventually catch a whiff of fresh air and freak out, then run around the house closing windows and adjusting the t stat.
It drives me totally Bug S...T!
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I can totally relate to these posts. My mom lives down the street from me. We live is a fairly mild climate. She turns her whole house heater and portable heaters on when it is 90 degrees outside. We aren't allowed to use the ceiling fans when we visit because she is cold. Her utility bills are about $500 a month in the winter and she lives alone. It doesn't often go below 60 degrees during the day in the winter here. She loves my dog, however, I tell her that I will not bring my dog to visit her in the summer if she insists on using her heaters. My dog has thick hair and I will not subject her to that heated house.
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Parsnip, close the heating/cooling vents in her room to cut down on the amount of cooler air that goes to her room.
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Nope you are not alone in wanting to kill her over what I call The Cold Wars which are followed by the Thermonuclear Wars. I am in the midst of a battle right now. Mom wants the Ac blasting at night to where everyone else has icicles hanging off their noses. And then comes the meltdown because she's cold. No kidding. Then she's mad. Nightmare
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