I feel for the lady who's brother is charging her mom's Visa card. My story is, my stepfather is abusive to my mom and she has had multiple broken bones in the past year. I discovered he had been doping her up and spending her ss checks and my dad's retirement checks. When I discovered this, he put my mom into a nursing home and she now has been diagnosed with Lewy Body Parkinsons/Dementia...She flips from one personality to another and her husband had me banned from notification lists with drs and banned from a nursing home. He has a girlfriend and has been giving my mom's stuff away. Recently he demanded to have her move to the state where I live because he "can't stand her anymore" and now that she is nearer to me, he is free to live his life with mom's and my dad's money. He was told not to spend her checks because SS won't deduct automatically her bill and he would have to turn them in once a month. Instead, he's spending it. Over the past 4 years he has spent over 60,000.00 of my mom's money. She knows this and for some unknown reason, she still "wants to be with him". He recently set up my brother who went to jail and says, "goodbye competition one" and then went to the new nursing home and have them thinking I'm a trouble maker. I have travelled back and forth for months (4 hr round trip) to help them and now my health is bad and since my mom is closer, they think I should stop everything and jump at their every whim. My stepdad is truly a mean man and he has no intentions of letting my mom move in with him and yet he has her believing she is. She refuses to believe anything my brother and I tell her. She thinks we are trying to cause trouble while he laughs all the time about it. Recently my husband and I went to their home to collect things to help stepdad move and we saw the most discusting sight. He has been leaving their dog in his own feces and urine throughout the house. The dog was so lethargic and it broke my heart and made me sick. Long story short, we have the dog now who is now happy and healthy. However, mom is accusing us of stealing her dog when in fact, her husband wanted him gone. I have made plans two months ago to go on a trip for a few days to get some rest and now both of them are furious with me. Saying I am so selfish and inconsiderate. I have spent every day all day long on phone with those two for months and cannot get on with my life or my job as a photographer. I am at my wits end. This man's evil text messages and voicemails have truly made me sick and mom doesn't want to hear them. He will do all these things and then go all lovey dovey to her. The nursing home was informed as to how he treats her and every time he throws a fit at the home, no one will turn him in and when I do, they ignore me. Mom only gets confused when he's around or has had one of his "talks" with her. I do not know what to do. I have lost so much weight, can't eat or sleep or get rest. I do love my mom with all my heart and seeing this happen is making me sicker. This man only wants my mom's and dad's check and has admitted he does not want the dog or mom to live with him and for the past 2 weeks she has been making plans on how fix up the new apt. The nursing home explained she will lose her help and benefits should she leave and she still says she is going. The new apt is right next door to the home. Now she is accusing me of stealing her belongings and dog. She disowned my brother last week and me yesterday. I do not know what to do. If I do not respond to their calls or texts, they accuse me of all kinds of things. This man is always one step ahead of us and proudly admits that nothing we say or do, will mom believe us. On her good days, she is defiant against him and is strong...after he is done with her, she turns on us for not "feeling sorry for him"..I have done everything there is to do. My fear is that he will change his mind and take back the dog and the dog will die with him. My other fear is a reality, he will not take care of mom. We took them out with my oldest nephew's family last week and her husband didn't lift one finger to help. After that, he threw a fit and screamed and yelled at me that he was done with mom. The next day, he goes and rents an apt next to nursing home and they want me to cancel my trip to move him in. Since it is obvious mom isn't going to listen to us and understand our fears of her being in danger with that man, is there anyway I can turn him in for spending mom's checks? They do have it automatically deposited in a joint accnt. She wants to open her own accnt but after his fake tears and lovey dovey crap, she changes her mind. I do not know what to do. If I stay clear of them, I will be accused of not loving them and if I do things for them, I'm not doing enough....Any advice would be helpful...please.